Husband's 'six rules to make your marriage work'

A husband has posted the ‘six rules’ he and his wife follow to try and be good ‘teammates’ to each other in their marriage.

The online response has been huge with the post getting thousands of likes and shares.

Husband posts six rules to make your marriage work and become online sensation

Ryan Stephens is a lifestyle writer for dialedinmen.com, the website he runs with his wife Alaina.

The two write various articles giving advice on their marriage, parenting, careers and lifestyle.

This one post mentions the importance of treating your spouse as a ‘teammate’ rather than a soulmate and stresses the need to value one another.

It has struck a chord with many online readers. The article has received many great comments and been shared across the web thousands of times.

Here is the post in full.My wife and I have found that focusing more on being teammates and less on being soulmates is a solid recipe for marital success.

Here’s quick thread on the 6 rules we try to follow to be a good teammate to each other in our marriage.

Here are the posts from Ryan:

1.) No one should ever hear anything bad about your spouse from you.

It’s one thing to joke with friends about something trivial and quite another to demean your spouse’s character.

Know the difference and always discuss the latter with your spouse and no one else.— Ryan Stephens ? (@ryanstephens) March 6, 2019

2.) Over communicate.

You cannot read each other’s minds.

Never assume the other person knows what you meant.

Give each other the benefit of the doubt when miscommunications happen.

Double check if necessary.
— Ryan Stephens ? (@ryanstephens) March 6, 2019

3.) Try new things together.

Even if one of you is typically more adventurous than the other, have fun with it.

Trying new things gets an individual out of their comfort zone and is often easier as a couple, allowing you both to grow stronger together.
— Ryan Stephens ? (@ryanstephens) March 6, 2019

4.) Be each other’s champion. Celebrate wins and encourage each other.

Bring home champagne after a promotion at work, back each other up when engaging in that battle with your heathen toddler, work out together, etc.

Never cut the other person down when they’re struggling.
— Ryan Stephens ? (@ryanstephens) March 6, 2019

5.) Be grateful for each other’s contributions.

Whether it be money, time, chores, childcare, or anything else, no one contribution is greater than another.

And don’t keep score.

If you truly value each other’s input, then the scorecard shouldn’t (and doesn’t) matter.
— Ryan Stephens ? (@ryanstephens) March 6, 2019

6. Trust and respect each other.

Especially in front of others, including your children.

If you do not respect your spouse in front of other people, why should those people respect your spouse?

Enough said.
— Ryan Stephens ? (@ryanstephens) March 6, 2019